Mom Guilt by Amanda Renteria

by | Jul 16, 2024 | Mom Real

Feeling the weight of mom guilt can be tough, but remember that it’s a common part of motherhood.

Give yourself some grace,

Amanda Renteria

Being a mom is such a blessing. God creates these tiny humans for you to take care of, to love, and to teach them the way of life with the guidance of Him. What they don’t tell you when you become a mom is this thing called “mom guilt”. That feeling of “not being the best mom” to your kids because you have to send them to daycare at the tender age of 3 months or you want 1 hour of alone time to feel like yourself again. It doesn’t get easier with each baby, it almost gets harder because you know it may be your last baby you get to spend all day with. God created us women so beautifully. He created us knowing we could be a wonderful mother to our babies and still manage to balance work, family and friends. It’s not easy but we CAN do it.
I had my last baby in March. Knowing but not fully understanding that he would be my last baby. My sweet baby is 4 months old as of July. I had the privilege to spend 3 months with him and let me tell you, I’d do it all over again. Going back to work has been such a challenge in itself but leaving your baby in the care of someone else at 3 months old has NOT been easy. I’m still breastfeeding so that’s another challenge I’m facing. While it hasn’t been the easiest, my faith in Jesus Christ has gotten me through the hard days.

 

I am a wife, a mother, a daughter, a sister, and a nurse. All these roles can be hard to balance, but with the support of my husband and God’s grace, I know I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. I find myself praying for strength A LOT. It may be because I don’t feel strong enough to do this crazy thing called life. I know I want it so badly, but some days feel harder than others. As a wife, you want to please your husband. As a mother, you want to make sure your kids are happy and healthy. As a daughter and sister, you want to be available. As a nurse, I want to be able to give my patients the best care possible. All of these different roles can be draining. It’s normal to feel this way but I think that’s why I find myself asking God for strength so often.

My oldest, Jonah, gets scared by things like thunderstorms (like most 3-year-olds). One day here in West Texas we had a bad storm that brought us lots of hail and much-needed rain. He was scared looking outside and had a tough time falling asleep that night but my first response was pray. Pray to Jesus, that He takes all the scary away and protects us through the night. I pray out loud with Jonah because I want him to know that it’s okay to pray when you’re feeling scared. Growing up I didn’t hear my parents pray out loud so because of this I found it difficult to pray. I don’t want Jonah to grow up finding it hard to pray to our Lord and Savior. Pray with them, not just for them.

As a daughter of God, I feel honored to pray over my family and give them a better version of me in all my roles. Prayer and reading God’s Word is key for a healthy wife and mom. 

“I pray out loud with Jonah because I want him to know that it’s okay to pray when you’re feeling scared.”

Two favorite verses;

“Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.

And the Peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.”

Philippians 4:6-7 NIV

“So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God.
I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.”

Isaiah 41:10 NIV

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